Waiting Game
I am a 21 y/o student at SFSU. I live in the most widely known and liberal places in the nation. I don't live in SF, but I live 30 minutes outside of it in a suburb. For my entire college experience I haven't really met any friends to speak of, let alone any gay ones. I will be graduating in the spring and I'm beginning to feel like I really haven't done anything socially in terms of my gay-self.
I've always been very goal-oriented and really didn't make any friends in college. There were those people who I'd casually talk to in class for that semester, and then I'd never see them again. I don't drink, or party or smoke or do anything that would constitute the typical "college lifestyle" so no matter what I wasn't really able to relate to any of my peers on that level. I have worked for the courts in the family law clinics for 2 years and then I interned at the criminal courts for a semester and now I'm working for the courts again and so it's made me used to being with people of a much older age range than me. It's also furthered the gap, at least for me, of relatability I would ever have for students my age.
Now that I will be graduating in the spring, I feel like I have kind of wasted my social life. I turned 21 this past summer, but since I don't drink and don't enjoy the bar/club scene (although I do like to dance) it really hasn't been this "oh-lala" experience everyone always makes it out to be. I have never been in a relationship and I am virgin which also makes me such an anomaly for where I live and for the cultural climate. I feel like an outsider and much older than I know I am. I recognize that I'm not very mature in a lot of things.
Has anyone ever felt this way when they got out of college? Or has anyone felt that they don't relate to the "Gay community" or felt like they've wasted their social life. If so, how do you over-come it? I have gotten the "join a hobby group" speech, but my only really hobbies are drawing and video games which is kind of a solitary thing...I just feel like I don't relate to anyone and I'm not sure how to break out of my shell. It's frustrating because I see people my age able to go out and live their lives and be social, fun people. I feel old and boring and lonely. I want to be more outgoing and social but I'm just not the type of person to go out there and be wild and crazy...anyway. Thanks for any responses!
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